When you behave from the vantage point of trying to please another rather than from the point of personal alignment, you set yourself up for a great amount of trouble, for it is not possible to hold someone else’s desires as the center of your attention, because as a creator, you simply are not wired that way.

Daily Yummy Say YES to pleasing yourself

Today’s bliss thought is from The Astonishing Power of Emotions. “When you behave from the vantage point of trying to please another rather than from the point of personal alignment, you set yourself up for a great amount of trouble, for it is not possible to hold someone else’s desires as the center of your attention, because as a creator, you simply are not wired that way.”

And, what they are talking about in personal alignment is feeling good… Feeling emotions such as love, appreciation, joy, freedom, and. Knowledge. And, when we do not feel good we are not in alignment. We feel fear, doubt, worry, anger, helplessness, powerless, irritation, annoyance…. And, if we are ever feeling these things then we need to get back in the flow and change our thoughts!

So, back to the quote… Ahhh. I don’t know about you but I can be a people pleaser at times and I never feel fulfilled. I feel a bit off balanced and then I feel stressed and it just doesn’t feel good. I am seeing how, unconsciously I do it all the time… in my intimate relationship, with friends & family, even strangers. I do things that I don’t want to do. But I know that they would really love to go to that restaurant or movie. Compromise is a place that I have lived from in my relationships.

And, I am not saying that there should never be any compromise. Because there are times that I am not that thrilled about something and it gives the other person so much pleasure for me to do it with them that I then feel good and I am feeling positive emotions. But, then there are other times I am not, and I just don’t want to go, and sometimes I will just go and then feel resentful and unhappy but try to pretend like I am happy and everything is just dandy. When in reality I would have loved to just be taking a bath! :)

So, this is something new for me and I am going to really be aware of my emotions when I am doing things. Also, becoming more aware of my thought, because if I change my thoughts I can change my emotions! :) The great thing is has NOTHING to do with the other person. It is all about me. They are not responsible for my emotional gauge, I AM!! And I am not being who I am meant to be when I am ignoring it and feeling bad!

Let’s feel good and start listening to our emotions and paying attention to what it is that we want and not what will please someone else! :)